Wheelchair stories: the nutcracker on ice

I’ve been to the Nutcracker on ice, an amazing show from the imperial ice stars. I love figure skating, but I’ve never seen it live. And it isn’t a big thing around here. I wish I could have done figure skating in the past, although I can’t recommend professional figure skating seeing what injuries the olympic figure skaters¬†end up with for the rest of their lives. I was already excited for months to see this show and ordered a wheelchair ticket with an companion ticket. Eventually I found someone to come with me, who was like ‘meh, might be cool to see’ instead of ‘boring..’ As you probably already figured out from my first sentence, I don’t agree with it. And I think it is a great show for everyone, the entire family. There are elements for everyone in it, such as a magician for the children and amazing figure skating skills for which you don’t have to know whether is it a double axel or triple flip or triple lutz. I have never seen a ballet or dance show and am not really into interpreting art such as dance, but I enjoyed seeing things I could connect and I think it was great for the ballet lovers and iterpreters and for those who go in blank. The only thing I did as preparation was reading the story of the nutcracker on wikipedia, so I would know what it was about in big lines. I also don’t know much about classical music, but I liked the music. I think the ice dances matched well with the music, but I’m just a layman ūüėČ

They also had nice costumes and played with lights. There was even an aerial acrobatics act and with fire. There was so much happening on the ice floor/stage, that you couldn’t see everything.¬†It was simply magical and when it ended, I thought I would never be in a fairytale like that again. It was stunning and beautiful. I’m kind of a sensitive person so it can really suck me in the moment. So when I was home again, I really wanted to go again the next day. But because I can’t move myself in the wheelchair I always need a companion and there was nobody who wanted to come. Usually it ends with that, but this time I got some courage and had an idea, which people thought wasn’t really going to work, because it was unusual (but I’m stubborn so hey). I called the theatre (all by myself and I hate calling, I was so nervous but I had this adrenaline rush of excitement to see the show again) and said I wanted to go to the show and order a wheelchair ticket, but that I needed some help because I didn’t have a companion to help me. So if they could pick me up at the entrance and push me to the seat (I actually stay in my wheelchair, but they can remove a theatre chair so you can sit/stand there). And when the show was over push me back to the exit and bring me to the toilet during the intermission and help me to order a drink (you get a complimentary drink with every show). The first person I had on the line was unsure and connected me with another person who liked my enthusiasm and thought it was nice to try out.

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It was great, even though I was both really excited and very nervous (the adrenaline rush helped me). I can never go somewhere on my own and this time I could! Now I can go to the theatre even if I can’t find anyone else to come with me and I love it. I think there are things you can enjoy doing/seeing on your own and I definitely can with these things (although it’s also fun to go with someone!). I don’t feel uncomfortable because I can call or text with my fellow Hippo while waiting, although it’s funny to see that I’m usually the only person alone and other guests can find that very strange. Maybe it’s an idea for you too if you’d like to go to a show and you don’t have someone to go with you (although I do still need someone to drive me to the theatre and pick me up, but I know someone who is fine doing that and really excited for me, but doesn’t want to go inside the theatre). I don’t think it is a strange thing to ask the staff and they are happy to help. Although they might be confused first when you only order a wheelchair ticket or when they think they only have to show you the way, because they think you can roll yourself (and keep you waiting for 45mins – yay for whatsapp and a smartphone. If I can stay in touch with my fellow Hippo, I won’t panick as much and don’t feel alone). Going to shows are one of the things I can do, because they are usually not that long (approx. 2 hours including intermission usually) and it is quite close to where I live, so I can rest the days after and before. Only issue is that I still have to pay the higher first rank fee for a wheelchair place (the places are usually not that good, pretty high up in the back, usually it’s the last first rank row) and I wish I could choose my rank (just like other people) to make it more affordable. But I look for discounts everywhere, lol.

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I found out that usually you just have to ask. People can forget about you, even when you arranged something, but they’ve almost all responded well when I remind/ask them about it (except for the grumpy lady at the ticket booth who didn’t want to call anyone, but to be fair I think she didn’t really understand that I was a. alone and b. can’t roll myself, although I did tell her multiple times). Asking is difficult for me, but I’ve really grown (when I compare myself to myself ūüėČ ) and this time it brought me something great. I’ve got something I can do sometimes ūüôā And you feel way more miserable when you’re just standing somewhere all alone and people are just walking by you. So preparation is key for me. Maybe it’s something you can try out too or maybe you already have. Please tell me about it, I love to hear your experiences or wishes, also when you’re a more able bodied person! Oh and I think it’s ¬†a positive thing for the theatre too, because they can sell an extra ticket when I’m coming ūüôā Can’t wait for my next theatre “adventure”, it makes life more fun for me (going out of the house and do something fun now and then).

 

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Smoking a right, breathing a luxury?

It’s probably not what you expected, since my PTSD and my other disabilities would make it difficult for me to sit outside (comfortable chairs anyone?). But really, the main reason why I can never enjoy an ice-cream or a diet coke on a terrace, especially when the weather is nice, is because people just really have to smoke.

Sometimes it feels as if their freedom, their right to smoke, is more important than my health or my freedom to leave my house, or sit on the balcony or in the garden (neighbours smoke). Or get inside a hospital without choking. Apparently breathing is far less important, it’s just my health you know?
I know not every smoker thinks like this, but sadly most people do think and act as if I’m one big fat liar, since smoking can’t possible be this harmful. Even non-smokers usually think I’m exaggerating when I have to get inside because someone is smoking. Or when I ask them to not put my wheelchair there, because someone is smoking. Or when I walk into a room and wonder if a person who recently smoked just walked by this room.

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[Picture of a no smoking sign (cigarette with a red circle around it and a red stripe through it) and next to it the text: Please  no smoking.]

I wish I wasn’t this asthmatic. I wish my lungs weren’t as bad and I wish doctors would help me with it. I have an inhaler but it doesn’t work for these unplanned moments when I completely can’t breath. I can only use it before I’m going to do sports. I’d love to go outside, but I can’t. Smokers are everywhere. It’s even more saddening that smokers have been reducing the health of my lungs too. For example: I had to live for a few months with someone (a narcissist) who would smoke everywhere in the house and I’ve never recovered from that. He knew what he was doing to me, but he didn’t care. In stead he had other people bully me for it and force me to stand next to him in the smoke. He would ‘suddenly’ smoke a lot more when I was around….

I’m sorry for my rage, but I feel like too many people just don’t know how harmful smoking can be for other people. That it can really be a severe problem and not just someone thinking it has a ‘bad smell’. I obviously don’t always feel as negative about this problem as I do now. But it is a severe problem that I have to deal with everyday and it really takes the fun out of going anywhere.

Do you have asthmatic problems? How do you deal with smoke? Do you have any tips? I usually put my hands in front of my mouth, then it takes a bit longer for me to faint.

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Reblog: Ben McCormack – Arrested For Child Pornography Crimes, And No-one Cares About The Children Being Abused

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Ben McCormack ‚Äď a reporter on A Current Affair ‚Äď here is Australia, has been charged with child pornography crimes, including distributing child pornography and conversations involving child sexual abuse.

See this link for details http://www.msn.com/en-au/news/australia/a-current-affair-reporter-ben-mccormack-charged-with-sending-child-pornography-material/ar-BBzsUvV?li=AAgfYrC&ocid=U206DHP

Social media is rife with this news. People are talking about what scumbag he is. People are laughing at the hypocrisy of him being someone who chases people down the road about lesser crimes reported by A Current Affair (ACA). People are scorning the ACA program, and the main host of the program. People are suggesting maybe people should wait and hear the facts before commenting. Some are even suggesting maybe he was accessing child pornography for a case he is working on for ACA. And meanwhile, the reports being made, are making it very clear that these charges are not in any way linked to ACA or Channel 9, who broadcast the show.

And amongst the hundreds of comments I have scrolled through…

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Share: my blogpost has been picked up by Teenvogue

Hi everyone. I’ve been in a lot of health issues so that’s why I haven’t been really active. I want to update everyone soon, but I probably can really start blogging again after the exams in May.

Anyway, I just noticed that my blogpost that was published by the Mighty, has now been published by Teenvogue. I had no idea they were interested.. Thanks WordPress for your statistics, otherwise I would have never known. Since I want to help others with my tips, therefore wanted to be read, I think this is a good thing. Although it feels weird that nobody let me know about it. You can find the Teenvogue article here

The adventures of Doggy: womanizer vs. courtly love

Our Doggy hasn’t been castrated because that can give some health issues and there is no reason to do it. We pay close attention to him and keep him on the leash. If the other dog owner is watching his/her female dog too (she might come to him and try to jump him) then nothing will happen.

Just like most humans, most dogs are interested in love. Or that other thing that doesn’t necessarily have to be connected with love: sex. Our Doggy is usually ‘interested’ in every female, especially when they’re in season.¬†Let’s just say that a male dog usually jumps on a female dog quite soon. Not a lot of dating in restaurants, going to the cinema and giving expensive jewellry beforehand. Usually Doggy is a womanizer. However, one female dog is different for Doggy. It really is a very sweet sight to see and I’d like to share it with you.

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[Photo of a puppy, holding a red rose with his snout and wearing a black bowtie.]

When Doggy is on the leash, he’s usually very calm when meeting other dogs. He stands still so they can meet him¬†or just passes them by. However, when he meets his Kimmy* it’s different. When he spots there he wants to run towards her, wagging his tail even more than usual. His flappy ears in his “happy position”. The same applies for Kimmy. She can’t just be calm and quiet either. She’ll bark and wag her tail and run towards Doggy. Doggy will lie down, so she knows she can stop barking because he isn’t going anywhere, and wag his tail vividly and when she’s close enough jump upright.

It’s different because with her he’s very gentle and despite having seen her a lot and she liking him, he’s never actually ‘jumped’ her. He will only give her sweet and careful licks around her snout. They might lay their heads on each other while standing or lying down or “kiss” each other even more. It’s so sweet and I’ve never seen Doggy likes this before. Yes, he has been impressed by large female dogs and admired them. But not as attentive as this and not without never even trying to do “netflix and chill”. It seems as if he doesn’t even think about that, because he wouldn’t want to accidentaly hurt her feelings.

Kimmy knows where Doggy lives and when she passes the house she will stand still and wait a bit. Her owner knows she has to wait for a little while, or she won’t come with her. If she sees one of us Hippos she will wag her tail and bark, waiting for Doggy to come out. Even though they sadly haven’t seen each other for months now (walking on different times and different routes), she will keep doing this. And when they see each other again, it will be as if they’ve¬†never been out each other’s sight.

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[Photo of a dog licking another dog sitting next to him.]

What do you think, can a dog actually fall in love? Have you ever seen something like this between dogs?

*Just like Doggy isn’t Doggy’s real name, Kimmy isn’t his girlfriends real name.

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Reblog: Sexual Revictimization: Are you really more likely to be victimized a second time?

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Key findings from several major studies (from 2000-2011) that explored the correlation between child sexual abuse (CSA) and subsequent victimization in adulthood, which illustrate a significant link between childhood and adulthood sexual revictimization (as well as related health problems).

Lalor, K., & McElvaney, R. (2010): Child sexual abuse, links to later sexual exploitation/highrisk sexual behavior, and prevention/treatment programs.

  • Numerous studies suggest that sexual victimization in adolescence significantly increases the likelihood of sexual victimization in adulthood. Studies suggest that sexual victimization in childhood or adolescence increases the likelihood of sexual victimization in adulthood between 2 and 13.7 times.
  • Several researchers speculate that mediating factors caused by CSA contribute to higher risk of sexual revictimization. Childhood abuse may interfere with normal development of interpersonal relatedness and affect regulation, which in turn decrease abuse victims‚Äô awareness of danger. Negative long-term effects of CSA may be attempts to avoid or cope with negative emotional‚Ķ

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Reblog: Hippos – Did You Know…

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‚Ķ That when hippos are upset, their sweat turns red? I stumbled across this weird fact and dug a bit deeper. Actually it‚Äôs more like they secrete an oily red substance that acts as a moisturizer, sunblock and protects them from germs. This also makes them look like they are sweating blood. While looking up the ‚Äúred blood fact‚ÄĚ I found some more interesting facts about this beautiful grey giant:

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